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Quarta-feira, 22 de Abril de 2020

How to Handle Nosy Neighbors as an Introvert

Becky Storey.

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April 22th, 2020

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Having neighbors can be great. They could be built-in friends that come with your new home and end up being your closest friends for life. They’re helpful to have around too. Neighbors will watch your house while you’re away and can be your first call in an emergency. Friendly neighbors are a very coveted thing because there’s nothing worse than bad, nosy neighbors.

Nosy neighbors can turn your dream home into a haunted house. There are a few kinds of nosy, invasive neighbors. There are the window watchers, the question askers and the can I borrowers just to name a few. It’s difficult to avoid a nosy neighbor. They think that by living next door to you, they’re part of the family like they have automatic rights to your personal life.

Introverts like to keep their personal lives just that, personal. This makes nosy neighbors the bane of an introvert’s existence. They ruin your sacred home life, and as an introvert, it can feel impossible to confront them.

4 Ways You Can Handle Nosy Neighbors as an Introvert

1. Be the Bigger Person

“Rise above it”, our parents always told us as kids. Don’t sink to their level, they said. Turns out, that advice still holds up even as adults. The very best way to handle nosy neighbors that you don’t like is to stay level-headed and always be the mature one. Introverts hate confrontation and conflict, so to preserve your mental wellbeing, never let your disagreements become more than that.

Neighbors can make your life a nightmare if you let them. At worst, they can even get the police and lawyers involved in your conflicts. When tensions start to arise between you and your nosy neighbors, keep in mind that keeping the peace is always the best option. Just like having tensions within your home, neighbors aren’t much different. You can’t escape them, so your best option is to be civil.

When they’re being nosy, or noisy, or downright rude, try your best to stay polite. It might feel near impossible, and you’ll be fighting the urge to scream, but it’ll be for the best in the long term.

Avoid being aggressive, loud, or rude. Try to compromise as much as you can bring yourself to. If their demands don’t affect you too much, consider letting them have it. “Pick your battles, you can’t fight them all” my Mother would say.

2. Set Clear Boundaries

Introverts often struggle to be honest about their feelings, especially if they think they won’t be met with understanding. This leads to becoming “yes people”, and mental exhaustion.

Some nosy neighbors seem to live to push your boundaries. They stare a little too long. They ask a few too many and too invasive questions. They ask for a few too many favors. When we’re trying to keep the peace, we might be inclined to let them get away with these kinds of behaviors, but you don’t have to. It is possible to be polite and still speak up for yourself.

A part of being a mature adult is learning how to shut down nosy people without upsetting anyone. You can do this by simply remaining kind, even if your words aren’t.

If you spot a nosy neighbor doing something you don’t like, you are in every right to ask them to stop. In a polite calm way, you simply say “I’ve noticed you doing this, and it makes me quite uncomfortable. Do you mind not doing it anymore?” Chances are, anyone approached like this would feel genuinely apologetic and a little embarrassed for being so weird.

3. Answer Their Invasive Questions

It might sound a bit backward, but a simple way of keeping nosy neighbors at bay is to give them a little of what they want. As an introvert, it can be really difficult to speak up and tell other people to back off. If that’s something you struggle with, you can instead learn to answer in limited ways.

When a nosy neighbor asks questions that you don’t want to answer, respond with as few words as you like but keep a smile. Then you can quickly exit the situation, and they’ll be none the wiser. You’ll come across as friendly, just busy.

4. Be Honest about You

If you’re willing, you could find ways to let your over-eager nosy neighbors know that your home is a sacred space. Simple anecdotes slipped into a conversation will (hopefully) help them to see that you want to be left alone.

You could let them know that you’re a homebody and that you enjoy being undisturbed when you’re at home. If they have a habit of peering over your garden fence and asking too many questions, you can also make it clear that your garden is a quiet space too.

3 Quick Fixes for Handling Nosy Neighbors

1. Pretend You Didn’t Hear Them

If you’re looking to quickly escape a nosy neighbor, you can pretend you don’t hear or see them. Don’t respond to their calls, and don’t make eye contact. You could also wear a hat or sunglasses to disguise your eyes and add headphones, so they easily assume you didn’t hear them and not that you’re avoiding them.

2. Be Nosy Back

It might be petty, but sometimes if you can’t beat them, join them. If you catch a nosy neighbor watching you and your house, do it back. If they ask too many questions, do the same to them. Chances are, they’ll be so uncomfortable that they’ll stop doing the invasive things they do, just to keep you away!

3. Block Their View

If you’re looking for a quick fix that doesn’t involve scaring the introvert inside you, then there are a few physical ways to stop nosy neighbors. The easiest way to prevent a nosy neighbor from seeing you is to block what they can see.

You can buy grown trees and hedges to surround your fences. You can also buy curtains and veils that won’t block your light but will block their view through your windows.

Don’t Let Your Nosy Neighbors Ruin Your Sacred Home Life

No one understands more than an introvert just how important your home is. It’s a sacred place for your mental wellbeing, so any disturbances can be tough to handle. Nosy neighbors can make your home life miserable, but it doesn’t have to go that far. If you follow a few easy steps, you don’t have to hide away or worry about giving up your dream home.

Have you ever had any negative experiences with nosy people living next door? How did you confront them? We would like to hear your thoughts. Please share them with us in the comments below.

Becky Storey

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Becky Storey is a professional writer who has been passionate about the way we think and the human mind since she developed chronic anxiety many years ago. Now she loves to write and educate people on mental health and wellbeing. When Becky is not writing, you’ll find her outside with her Labrador, sitting behind a jigsaw puzzle, or baking something with too much sugar.

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7 Famous INTPs in Literature, Science and History

Lottie Miles, M.A.

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If you’ve taken the Myers-Briggs Personality Type test, you may have found that you fit into the ‘INTP’ category. This stands for introverted, intuitive, thinking, and perceiving. But what does it mean to have this personality type? And who can you relate to in popular culture? Let’s take a look at famous INTPs in more detail. We will try and uncover who from literature, science, and history fits into this pretty rare category.

What Is the INTP Personality Type?

People with the INTP personality type have their primary focus on the internal world rather than external. They are analytical and excellent problem solvers. Theory is the best friend of those with an INTP personality type. Moreover, they will constantly be striving for a theoretical explanation for what they witness in the external world.

INTPs, generally, have an above-average level of intelligence. Regarding social circles, as introverts, INTPs prefer a few select close friends rather than large friendship groups. However, their introversion does not make INTPs unapproachable. They are known for their loyalty, affection, and interest in people.

Today, we will talk about famous people with INTP personality traits who have made significant accomplishments in the fields of literature and science.

7 Famous INTPs in Literature, Science, and History

Albert Einstein

Albert Einstein was a theoretical physicist who pioneered the theory of relativity. He has retrospectively been assigned the INTP personality type and is probably the most famous and typical INTP. Whilst, Einstein did not take the Myers-Briggs test, his quirks suggest he should reside in this camp.

A reserved person, he was also known for being incredibly approachable and humble. Renowned for his acute intellect and ability to think outside the box. His INTP personality meant he went down in history as one of the greatest scientists of all time.

Hermione Granger

Hermione Granger, the well-loved Harry Potter heroine, is a classic INTP personality type. She is fiercely intelligent and has an insatiable thirst for knowledge. She has the ability to get herself and her friends Ron and Harry out of many a sticky situation. This highlights her excellent intuition and ability to think logically as well as creatively.

She also cares greatly for her friends and is unwaveringly loyal. Do you find yourself relating to Hermione? If you are unsure of your personality type, you may just be an INTP also.

Marie Curie

The first woman to win the Nobel Prize, Marie Curie was a physicist and chemist. She is well-known for her discovery of radium in 1898. An intellectual, Curie dedicated her life to scientific research and her work paved the way for many developments in cancer research.

Despite her fame and acute intellect, Marie Curie was modest and lived a largely private life. As an introverted problem solver, Marie Curie is one of the famous people with the INTP personality type.

Abraham Lincoln

The 16th president of the United States, Abraham Lincoln, served throughout the American Civil War. Lincoln is said to have taken an objective approach to decision making. Indeed, he favored seeing the bigger picture over deliberating over the minor details. He relied heavily on logic to deal with the difficult situations that crossed his path throughout his presidency.

Lincoln was also known for being a great debater and was a prominent contributor in The Great Debates of 1858. A true INTP if ever there was one.

Franz Kafka

The German-speaking novelist Franz Kafka is famous for his surrealist works of fiction. These include fantastic pieces like The Metamorphosis and The Trial. An introvert by nature, Kafka was also known as a loyal friend to those fortunate enough to make it into his social circle.

Furthermore, his obvious intelligence and deep-thinking nature are prominent throughout his books. Kafka had an unconventional approach to writing and a tendency to carve his own unique path. These are true traits of someone with an INTP personality type.

Jane Austen

Jane Austen was an English novelist who is well known for her fine-tuned social observations. She is also known for her accurate insight into the lives of women living in the 19th century. Her approach to writing was not typical of its time.

Indeed, her honest observations showed her ability to think outside the box. Moreover, the humor and irony that are present in her novels are demonstrative of her sharp mind, intuition, and skills of perception. If Austen was to take the Myers-Briggs personality test today, it’s likely she’d classify as an INTP personality type.

Charles Darwin

People with an INTP personality try to explain the world around them. It is their logic that helps them understand what they witness in everyday life. It may come as no surprise, therefore, to see that Charles Darwin falls into the INTP category.

The author of The Theory of Evolution, Darwin sought the order in his world and spent his life attempting to explain it. He even drew up a list of the pros and cons of marrying before he chose to pursue a wife!

INTPs Are Powerful

As you can see, being introverted, intuitive, thinking, and perceiving can certainly pave the way to success. Moreover, the INTP personality type resonates in key figures throughout history. These people have broken the mold and used their intellect and skills of perception to make a mark in the world.

Indeed, famous INTPs tend to be pioneers in their field, decision-makers, and creators of great works of literature. If you have an INTP personality type, you could just be about to make history.

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Lottie Miles is a professional researcher and writer with a passion for human rights. She has 4 years of experience working within the NGO sector and has a Masters Degree in Social Policy. She has a keen interest in exploring ways in which happiness habits can help to improve mental health and wellbeing. In her spare time, she likes doing crossword puzzles, painting and traveling.

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4 Differences Between Antisocial and Introvert: Which One Are You?

Becky Storey.

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April 16th, 2020

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Introverts are almost always mistaken for being antisocial. The immediate assumption is that they don’t want to be around others because they don’t like anyone. Their reclusiveness is seen as hostile. Antisocial and introvert could appear similar at surface level, but they aren’t the same at all.

Antisocial people could be introverted or extroverted. Being antisocial refers to your behavior towards others. Introvert and extrovert are labels attributed to the way you think and feel about being around others.

What Are Antisocial and Introvert?

Introvert

Being an introvert means your energy levels are depleted quickly from social interaction. While an introvert might also suffer from social anxiety or even be an antisocial person, the “introvert” label doesn’t require it. Introverts can be confident and happy to socialize within their chosen boundaries.

Antisocial

Introvert and antisocial people differ greatly in their willingness to interact with others. Antisocial people are actively unwilling to interact with others. They are often hostile and angry towards other people. Antisocial people, unlike introverts, have no concern for the unwritten rules of social interactions. They are cynical and unempathetic towards others.

Antisocial people will typically prioritize themselves, their work, or their own fun over friends and socializing.

The Differences Between Antisocial and Introvert

1. Energy Drain

Introverts are defined by their loss of energy when they’re interacting with other people. This could be worst in large crowds, or with one on one meetings. It all depends on the person and the intensity of the interaction. In order to replenish their energy, introverts need to be alone or with a small, peaceful group of people they’re close to.

This can be seen as being antisocial because they might leave parties early, or steer clear of big groups socializing altogether. However, these choices have nothing to do with how much they like or even love the people around them, they’re just avoiding mental exhaustion.

Antisocial people have no concept of the energy drain. Their decision to stay way has nothing to do with their energy, and all to do with how little they like being in the company of others. Antisocial people could be extroverts too. Their energy might not be diminished by being around other people, they just don’t enjoy socializing or interacting with them.

2. Care and Concern

By nature, introverts tend to be very empathetic. They care for other people’s feelings deeply. Introverts are often very aware of their own emotions, and this makes them extra perceptive of the emotions of others. They never want to make others feel the kind of discomfort they do at times, so they always make sure to take care of the feelings of the people around them.

Antisocial people differ in that they have little to no care or concern for the feelings of the people around them. They aren’t interested in how their words or actions affect others. Unlike introverts, antisocial people don’t follow the unwritten rules of society or social niceties.

Introverts will usually struggle to admit when they want to leave a gathering or that they don’t have the energy to attend an event. They feel upset and worried that they might hurt someone. Antisocial people will openly admit that they aren’t having fun, or don’t want to go, with no concern for how it might make anyone else feel.

3. Relationships and Connections

Despite plenty of misconceptions, introverts can have plenty of friends and loved ones they’re close to. Many people assume that introverts are shy and reclusive, but this isn’t necessarily the case.

Introverts might be loners, or they might be friendly social people. Introversion is about energy, not the number of friends you have. Introverts are also presumed to be shy and struggle to make new friends. This is, of course, not true. Introverts could happily make new friends, and easily maintain a fun group of old friends.

Antisocial people, on the other hand, don’t choose to make new connections often and likely maintain a very small circle of friends and family. They would rather be alone as often as possible and don’t feel that their lives would be improved with more relationships or connections.

4. Enjoyment Gained

An important difference between people who are antisocial and those who are introverted is how much or how little they enjoy company. Introverts are often shamed for being “boring” and “never want to have any fun”. Admittedly, introverts might choose quieter activities given the choice, but there’s no reason why an introvert can’t enjoy being social.

Introverts can still be party-goers and fun-lovers and enjoy doing things with their friends and the people they love. They might avoid or be apprehensive about talking to large groups of new people, but that’s only down to the impending exhaustion, not an aversion to socializing.

Antisocial people are typically the complete opposite. They genuinely don’t care for socializing or expect to have fun with groups of people. They might have a small circle of friends, but they likely don’t require their presence for excitement or fun.

For too long now, introverts have been mislabelled as antisocial, and it’s just not fair. Introverts can be exciting, adventurous people who like the company of others. They just keep it within their boundaries and protect their energy. If a person is antisocial, then they aren’t protecting themselves, they just don’t care at all. This is the basic difference between antisocial and introvert.

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The Power of Introverts: Study Finds Loners Are Crucial to Species Survival.

The Power of Introverts:

Study Finds Loners Are Crucial to Species Survival.

Becky Storey.

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April 7th, 2020

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For years now, loners and introverts have been the outsiders of society. They’re considered to be strange and boring, and not worth inviting to your events. The truth is, introverts and loners are just misunderstood. Finally, scientific research has proven that introverted people and those who choose to be loners are essential to our survival. Researchers at Princeton University discovered that without the power of introverts, our species wouldn’t survive.

What Is A Loner?

Loners exist all over the world, from insects to mammals and even single-cell organisms. Small herds of Wildebeests sit out on the great migration the rest of their species is taking. Locusts leave the swarm and return to a simple life as a grasshopper.

A loner actively avoids most interaction with other people and chooses not to make many personal connections. This differs from introverts slightly, in that, an introvert does enjoy making connections and can be social creatures, their energy just depletes quickly with too much “full-on” interaction.

Loners and introverts are similar though, in that they both choose to stay away from busy places and large crowds. They exist on the outskirts of society typically, not particularly concerned with getting involved.

Both types of people enjoy being at home in their own peace and quiet. In these difficult times of social distancing, surely, we need more people like this. An introvert’s true power really shows when in order to save the world, we have to stay home.

The Study: The Eco-evolutionary Significance of “Loners”

A study carried out at Princeton University that was published in early 2020 has proven the true power of an introvert once and for all.

The researchers used slime mold and amoebas as their participants in the experiment. Corina Tarnita, one of the scientists involved in this study, explained that though it might have been easier to draw conclusions from wildebeests and humans, they don’t lend themselves to these kinds of experiments well.

The Princeton study set out to prove the power of introverts by using an amoeba called Dictyostelium discoideum. The amoeba cells join together, forming large slime mold towers, gross. The cells join together by nature, but some stay behind.

Proof of The Power of Introverts

Corina Tarnita revealed that they found more loners than they ever expected. Up to 30% of the cells they studied chose to be loners. Even when they provided the most optimized conditions for the slime molds, still some stayed as outsiders.

After painstaking research, they concluded that these loners were essential to the survival of the species – whether they knew it themselves or not. If predators attack a group, the introverts and loners will remain. If a disease takes hold, the introverts and loners will stop it from jumping to the whole population. Possibly apt for the current climate.

When group activity risks group failure, the loners and introverts have the power to save the species.

Other Studies on The Power of Introverts

Susan Cain is a writer and expert on the introvert mind. In her book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, she explains how being an introvert can be evolutionarily beneficial.

Depending on the era and the circumstances, being an introvert or extrovert can be what dictates your success in life.

In the very distant past, during the hight of nomadic and hunter-gatherer eras, being extroverted was essential. Being out and about, making connections to get supplies and resources was the best way to secure your lifestyle. As we started to form settlements and took on farming instead of hunting, trades instead of bartering, introversion became a better way of living.

In our modern times, both will do you just fine, depending on the path you choose. Until now, that is. When staying home means protecting our lives, introverts have the upper hand. Right now, survival relies on staying out of the crowd and who has more experience with that than introverts and loners.

The Power of Introverts in the Current Climate

Never has being an introvert or a loner been more beneficial for our survival. The coronavirus pandemic is fast-moving and potentially deadly. Fortunately, the best way to stop it in its tracks is to just stay home. This couldn’t be much easier for introverts, who probably choose to stay home even without the threat of a dangerous virus. We’re saving lives doing things we always do.

If we were thinking in just black and white, which thankfully we aren’t, introverts would be the most likely to survive this outbreak. By not leaving the house out of boredom or desperation, we are in no danger. Introverts would survive in a black and white situation, leaving enough people behind to prevent total extinction.

If anyone ever tells you that introverts aren’t any use in modern society, you can tell them that! Staying home right now will save lives. In the future, even without a virus threatening our way of life, introverts and loners help to prevent dangerous overcrowding, pollution and the spread of violent outbreaks like riots and protests gone wrong.

Introverts and loners have been proven to be scientifically essential for our survival. Not just for humans, but for animals, bugs and icky slime molds too. Now more than ever, it’s time to let your introvert flag fly. Stay home, stay safe, save lives.

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